How to approach women is the number 1 problem that many man face. Despite reading 101 seduction and pickup guides, having all the top routines, pickup lines, canned materials and backup plans and tons of tips in their brain… they still can’t do it.
Generally, people will try to get over their fear by drinking alcohol, and then head on and approach women in clubs. But, i do have friends whose fear cause they to be afraid of women, even on facebook, where women can’t even noticed their body language.
Look, the more information you have gathered in your head, the worse off you perform. You guys must be thinking that I am contradicting myself here.
But ask yourself, do you get more and more confused sometimes as you “understand” more and more about seduction and attraction? No doubt now you knew a lot of things about women that you previously are oblivious to, and perhaps there are a few “ah ha” moments.
But… did you take action?
The truth is, the more you apply and take action and use these information, the less confused you become. Because by taking action, you are creating these neural pathway in your brain, linking what the information to your performance, thus affecting and in fact creating new mindsets in you.
What happens to those who read and read and do not apply and take action? Their brain get mixed signals. Firstly, there is the past mindset and limiting beliefs in their brain about how approaching women should be e.g. nervous, they will reject me, embarrassment.
And now, due to some “understanding” of new insights about attraction, they have mixed signals as to which side of the equation should you based your mindset on. There is a mixture of whether approach women is fun or painful.
Remember, just by reading seduction information, you are getting insights only. You do not truly get the information to integrate with yourself and your beliefs because you did not take action. Therefore, you become more confused, and all the more unnatural. When you have mixed signals, you get mixed results.
An example will be that previously, approaching women, creates great fear in you because you are worried about how others and the girls will judge you. Perhaps in your mind, you are imagining them laughing at you, the girl rejects you. This is the limiting belief that you had all along. You have the fear of disappointment, and the uncertainty of what she will react to you.
And so, after reading some powerful pickup books, you have been told that approaching women is all about repetition. The more you repeat the approaches, the less fear you get.
So now, in your mind, there are 2 thoughts: fear of disappointment by approaching the girl and, the more approaches you do the lesser you fear them.
Is there certainty? No.
Is there more confusion? Yes.
I do agree that fear can never go away and, by repetition, you can greatly minimize this effect of fear. However, to the beginners who have fear gripping them by their balls, this information provides a solution to the effects of approaching women.
And as we know, by dealing with the effects of a problem, it will resurface again. We need to deal directly to the cause of this problem: fear of women.
How?
By understanding the “why?” of attraction. Have you ever get into such situation where you absolutely hate what this person is doing as you can’t seem to understand why is he being so weird. However,you found out later that he behave in such a way because of some huge problems which he has. You will definitely view what he does in a different light from now onwards.
The key to approaching women or to get rid of any fear of women is to understand women, man and how attraction happens. Of course one way you can do it by taking action and repetition. The other is to understand the why to their behavior and then replace your limiting beliefs with this new understanding.
1 killer mindset shift:
Guys chase after girls for sex, girls accept guys for financial support. This is the current mindset that is being built inside you straight from day 1. This is how the society has programmed us. The final result is sex.
Have you ever got the happiness feeling that when you give gifts to women, and they got so delighted with the surprise that they decided to reward you with a kiss, or sex? Yeah… she rewards you.
Thus, approaching women becomes “hard work”. Too many guys view women as a prize, some thing that you need to work hard for. Its like you are fighting against her. You need to change your belief about this. Women are humans with emotions too. There are living, breathing, feeling humans!
Thus, stop being reactive to what the women is doing, and based your happiness and sadness on what she’s giving you. Think of her as a teammate, and that she needs you as much as you need her. You are on equal terms.
Once you begin to treat women as your teammate, as a human just like you, and that they are hardwired to have sex too and have families, your fear of them wouldn’t be so great after all.
Besides, why women flakes guys some times when guys approach them? No security. You must remember that she is much smaller and harmless, as compared to you. You are a much stronger, bigger guy who can easily harm her. She should, and is, more afraid of you than you are of her.
Imagine a bear trying to approach a cat (weird analogy…), who should have more fear? Take out your programming in your mind that women are creatures that can struck so much fear in you. Think of them as your teammate, and the small little cat which can absolutely have no effect on you, the big bear.
I believe there are many questions appearing in your head: How has society programmed us for? If sex is not rewarded, how should it be? If girls are our teammates, why do they flake us when we approach?
Society has programmed us this way because of many reasons, economical being one of them, quite differently from our what we are biologically built to do back in the days when we are still a young species. Women flake you because for attractive women especially, there are tons of guys approaching them. They can’t possibly sleep with all of them, thus, she has created tests to see if you are the right guy for her.
I can go on and on about these issues. I do believe that Vin DiCarlo did an excellent explanation of man and women as a species and how attraction is being sparked naturally.
The Attraction Code specifically provides the “why?” attraction happens this way, and how to uncover the true male inside you built for attraction and sex. I do believe that once you get it, attraction becomes natural and easily achieved. There are instances where women can sniff your confidence even without you talking. So, go and approach women naturally now.
Check out: The Attraction Code
