I was hanging out with my friends at a club on Christmas eve. It was a normal night and then something happened. My friend, lets call him Ben, wants to approach a girl that he likes. Oh well, he asked for my help. As usual, i’ll tried to explain how approaching directly shows that he is sincere and confident about himself.
But friends kinda don’t take you seriously. They are happy with me approaching for them. So i did it my way and told the girl that my friend is interested in her. Straight to the face. I told her that i take it as a yes because she looks kind of confused.
I got some laughs from her friends.
Back to my table, i asked Ben to go ahead as that girl says yes. Being a shy boy, he smile nervously before walking towards the girls. He went ahead and asked for her number. So being girls, she tried to be difficult and asked for a MacDonald meal in return.
Here is the critical point… my friend said ok.
Later on, we had a little debate about the meal-in-exchange-for-number saga. I explained that being interested in the opposite sex, and expressing it sincerely to her is absolutely fine. If you want to get her number, get it because you are sincere about knowing her. Not in exchange for a meal.
Making friends is not a transaction. You are going to be starting this new “friendship” on the wrong step… a transactional one. Imagine paying for her shopping in exchange for sex? Or the classic move: buying girls drinks to talk to them.
You, i mean you by yourself is adequate. You are not inferior, and you definitely do not need to buy things or do her favours in order to deserve her attention.
This is how i will say if she asked for a meal in return:
“Look, i notice you from afar and i felt that i would kick myself in the butt if i did not approached you. So… here I am, asking for your number. I seriously do not think that you are worth just a MacDonald’s meal. Anyway, i just want to let you know that you look absolutely like a fun person to hang out with, and i want to see you again.”
If she refused, simply smile, say nice meeting you and leave.
There are many other chances.
However, that is always the exception.
If you happen to sit down, and have a wonderful conversation with this girl. And the bill comes and you want to pay for it go ahead. I think its an act of gentleman. But do it because you want to and you enjoy her company. Do not do it for an exchange of her attention.
